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Creating Calm to Prevent a Storm

I try hard not to watch too much TV, because let’s face it, we can get drawn in easily and end up spending countless hours on the couch.  However, last night, I felt like I just needed a break from reality.

As I was scrolling through the trusty ‘ol guide, I discovered that the 2004 movie titled, “The Day After Tomorrow,” starring Dennis Quaid, Jake Gyllenhaal, and Emmy Rossum was airing.  I vaguely remembered the movie, but I recalled liking the movie, so I tuned in.

If you’ve never seen this movie, I’ll give you the gist of it… ‘A climatologist tries to figure out a way to save the world from abrupt global warming. He must get to his young son in New York, which is being taken over by a new ice age’ (Yep…intense, but thought provoking).

The movie was on until 12 pm and there was no way mama was making it ’til 12, so I DVR’d it to watch in the morning before the rest of the clan woke up.

There I was at 6:30 am watching the remainder of this very intense movie, glued to the screen.  As I viewed the storm unfold on the screen, my inner storm was coming to a head.

The past few months have been extremely intense for me.  If you remember my last blog article about being mindful, I think you’ll understand where my head has been.  Lots of ‘stuff‘ going on, both good and bad (just like everyone else on this planet), and very little time spent being mindful, but

That’s all about to change! 

Perhaps that movie shifted something inside of me.  Maybe it was a way for me to see the storm that was brewing within myself and make a shift before it was too late.

I went about my day, running errands and dropping my son off for a play-date, and then I felt it…that awful piercing pain that I get in my neck when I am so stressed out that I can’t even think straight.  Shortly after, I felt a heaviness in my chest and breathing became a chore.  My mind began to race.  I knew I wasn’t having a heart attack and that there was no immediate danger, but my body wasn’t quite getting that and it was going into fight or flight mode!  So, what did I do?

I took a deep breath…nothing.  I took another deep breath…still nothing.  I took a third deep breath and then the flood came.  Tears rolled down my face like a down pour from the clouds on a hot summer’s day.  I let it all out.  I randomly spewed my thoughts like a hurricane ripping through a remote town to my husband (who was actually very good this time and didn’t try to fix it in typical ‘male mode’, instead, he just listened while boarding up the windows! Thanks Hunnie)  When the tears stopped and the sniffles were gone (the downpour and outrageous wind), I wiped my eyes, took a deep breath and said to myself, “Girl, you’ve got to dump this stuff out of your FULL mind and get to a mindful place before your child comes home!”

And that’s exactly what I’m going to do.  Today, I am attending a workshop with John Welshons in Albany at 1 pm.  I didn’t intend on it, but when I went to my computer to see what I could do to straighten myself out (while my son was at his friends house enjoying life) and give myself some ‘me time,’ there sat the email in my inbox with an answer.

We take on a great deal of stress every day.  Some of our stresses may include; financial stress, relationship stress, career stress, time management stress, etc.  The list is different for everyone, but the result is quite the same.  While we are taking on all of that stress and not doing anything to relieve it, we are brewing a massive storm destined to destroy everything in its path.

Now, if you live in a remote area on the top of some mountain far away from civilization where there is you, and only you, and no one depends on you, then you are good to go, keep adding fuel to that fire, if you so choose.  However, if you are a human being who interacts with other human beings daily, especially children, then perhaps you may want to create calm in your life in order to prevent this storm.  These storms created by stress can be lethal.  They can destroy a person’s well being in a matter of moments and our children are the most vulnerable to these conditions.

I’m not saying that a meditation workshop for 3 hours is the thing for you.  Maybe it’s a round of golf or a day at the spa.  Perhaps, it’s a walk in nature for 15 minutes or closing your eyes for 5 minutes and focusing on your breath.  It doesn’t matter what you do to get yourself to focus on the present moment and leave the past in the past and the future to the future.  What matters is that you take the preventive measures necessary to avoid a storm.  We get so caught up in where we are going and where we have been that we miss the gift in front of us…the present moment.

Unfortunately, time doesn’t stop ticking.  One moment you’re holding your new born baby in your arms, and the next moment your handing them the keys to the car.  In order to stay in the moment, be mindful.

Don’t let it get to the point when you feel pain in your neck or heaviness in your chest.  The moment your mind starts to spin, take a deep breath and just listen to that breath.  Imagine what it looks like going into your body and leaving your body.  Feel what that breath feels like.  This is a sure way to get yourself back to the present moment when you are jumping ahead to the future or stuck in the past.  Mindfulness isn’t a religion or even a philosophy.  It’s simply,

Paying attention in a particular way; On purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally.” 

Jon Kabat-Zinn

I am truly thankful that I watched that movie last night.  May the shift begin!

I hope that my tiny storm will help you to prevent storms of your own, so that together, we can be the best parents, the best teachers, the best models for our children, today…tomorrow…and always!

Much love and sunshine to you!

Vicki

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Also, a GREAT book, written by Congressman Tim Ryan titled, “A Mindful Nation,” just might be worth your time.

Children are to be Seen, Heard & Absolutely Listened to!

Have you ever heard the phrase, ‘Children should be seen and not heard?’  I remember hearing this as a young child from our extended family, and, of course, it never quite sat right with me.  I believe now, exactly what I believed then…Children have a very important voice.  Yet, now it’s a part of who I am and a commitment I make daily to help children find their voice, and speak their truth.

I pride myself on my ability to teach.  I have always thought that I was a really good teacher because I have a way of simplifying difficult lessons, but I must say, I’ve met a teacher who is even more amazing than me…

About three months ago, I was talking with a friend on the phone who was very disappointed because she had been trying for a second child for quite some time, and was still not pregnant.  I had her on speaker phone while I was talking, and my son was going about his business quietly.  My friend has a 2 year old son and as we were speaking on the phone, and she was crying over her disappointment, her 2 year old walked over to her and said, “Baby girl coming soon, Momma.”  She wimpered a bit more, and then asked him what he just said.  He repeated, with great vigor and confidence, “Baby girl coming soon!”  I was smiling on the other end of the phone while I listened to this because, I was reassuring her that this was all going to work out, and her son just confirmed that.  She turned back to our conversation and said, “Why would he say that, Vick?

Before I could even get a breath and bring the words to my lips, my son spoke up, “Mom, tell her to believe him!  Growned ups don’t get it.  Babies know more than they do because they remember things from ‘up there,‘  why won’t she just listen to him?”  In awe, and with an even bigger smile on my face, I asked my friend if she heard my sons guru advice.  She chuckled and said, “Yes, but what does this all mean?” My son then said, “Mom, gimme the phone.”  He greeted her very gently and then said, “Ok, listen.  Kids haven’t been here for too long, ya know, on Earth, so it’s easy for us to still know stuff like we did in Heaven.  Your son is telling you that a baby girl is coming soon because she IS coming soon.  You have to believe him.  You just have to believe him!”  He then handed me the phone and said, “Ok mom, your turn!”  I ended the conversation and asked my son where that was all coming from.  His response, “Well mom, kids know more than growned ups because they were in the other world not so long ago, especially babies.”  I looked at him and said, “Hunnie, that’s amazing that you still remember all of this.”   He looked deep into my eyes and replied, “That’s why I picked you Mom.  I picked you because you’re beautiful (he got brownie points for that one), loving, and your not like most growned ups.  You get it!”

Considering the fact that I did an interview with the Miracle Cafe Radio Show last night, http://www.miraclecaferadio.com/radio-show-archive and was labeled the ‘Modern Day Mary Poppins,’ I’m thinking my son just might be on to something! 

We live in a world where everyone is doing their own thing.  If you look around on any given day, you will inevitably see children with their eyes on an iPod Touch, iPad, or some sort of electronic gadget.  At first glance, you might notice that the children are totally engaged in their own little world.  When you look again, you might notice that, we, their parents and guardians, are also immersed in this world.  We may be checking our email from our Smart Phone, texting, or even playing games right along side the child that sits next to us.  When I think of our world today and how we interact with one another, it sometimes saddens me because our youth has a difficult time communicating with one another without technology as a barrier.  Worse, they have a very difficult time communicating with the adults around them.  After listening to my son, it’s easy to see how children start shutting down with their communication after awhile.  If you aren’t really listening to them, especially when they have a SUPER important message, then they begin to doubt those messages themselves and shut them down.

Let’s change all of this and be ‘growned ups who get it.’  That ol’ saying, ‘Children should be seen and not heard,’ is totally off base.  Quite to the contrary…

Children should be seen, heard, and totally listened to!

On a side note…My girlfriend called me a few weeks ago with some news…Yep, you guessed it, she’s pregnant!  Hmmmmm, I think it’s safe to place a bet that it’s a girl!

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